Remember the story about the hare and the tortoise and the subsequent management versions. That particular story stayed on my mind for a long time during school days and for a number of reasons. Reason # 1 – I could not figure out the difference between Rabbit and Hare. Since childhood, I never came across this rabbit looking animal called hare and now he is interested in racing a tortoise … why? Reason # 2 – I tried visualizing it with a normal race that we as kids ran and could not recall a single instance when any of the kids slept or took a break while running … maybe that is why that particular animal is called hare (the rabbit who sleeps during the race). And the most important reason # 3 – It is not a fair deal. The rabbit who sleeps during the race cum hare did everything right and ran well. The tortoise did what it could do, it walked. So, why is this story so biased towards one particular animal?
The story would have taught us ‘Slow and steady wins the race’ but I guess our innocent minds also learnt an indirect lesson which was ‘How to compare’. We created our own hares and tortoises within the classroom and the parameters for comparison were mark sheets, grades, Remarks column and even sports and other activities. As we grew up, the parameters kept on increasing from number of dates, number of promotions, CTC, the car model and even ‘Likes’. So, is it a crime? Not exactly but it is a pardonable offence at least for me when in the pursuit of that next big mountain of life. Let me do a quick run through of my Enablers which will help me scale up the heights, (1) Challenge the proverbs, (2) Know yourself (3) Listen .. to your surroundings, people and most importantly your heart. And how many times do we conveniently not do this particular thing by saying, ’I’ve tried but it just doesn’t work out. Look at XYZ. I guess they are very lucky’.
At some stage of life we all follow the 3 Cs – Crib, Complain or Criticize and the source of all three lies with the mother C – Compare. How do you expect to listen to yourself or others for that matter if in the first place you are not going to stop comparing? Imagine if the Hare and the Tortoise has to be re-written and re-told. Once upon a time there was a rabbit that had the habit of sleeping during the race and was also called as Hare. His colleague was tortoise. Both decided to race. The hare ran fast obviously, however, after a certain point of time he got a bit overconfident and decided to take a small nap under the tree. The tortoise kept on walking without knowing that the hare had gone to sleep. When he saw the hare sleeping, he chuckled to himself and said ‘I hope he sleeps till I reach the finish line’. Tortoise won. Hare lost. So, my dear child, in today’s digital age of you-can-get-rich-fast, you can be hare or a tortoise as per your wish. But remember, not every hare will sleep and not every tortoise will walk so much.
As adults (I quite fancy this word as my first take from this word was only about adult movies:)), we are mature, grown-up people who still follow the childhood parameters of comparison. It reflects everywhere. The advertisement says ‘How is her Sari brighter than mine?’. ‘How can I become fair to attract the girls?’ … In our daily lives, ‘She is very close to the boss, no wonder she gets promoted.’ … ‘There are lot many better husbands and fathers out there, you don’t care for me’. … Best of all are all those Before-After series. Be young again like Shane Warne, get more hair. Be fit again like Hrithik, get more energy post thirty. Get 6+ inches (I know what you are thinking) long toothbrush to have the brightest teeth.
Deep inside you, a little voice would be saying that I am ok not being that fit or handsome. I just want to follow this dream of mine of joining a NGO and helping the needy and one day start a NGO of my own. This little voice is soon overshadowed by the high decibel noises made by your Comparison speaker which has its own music. Whether you listen to the jarring music and end up being something lot different from what your inner little voice always said, is your choice. By now, the difference would have been evident. It’s never too late though to stop comparing. And getting rid of its babies called as cribbing, complaining and criticizing. Be the hare. Be the adult you want to be. And watch the adult movie you have been yearning to see.