Few more days and a grand year awaits us! Post Christmas celebrations which include rum, wine, red everything and of course chilly weather romancing lovely looking people, comes the time of anxiety, pensiveness and hope. Anxiety is due to the fact that around 11 months and 27 days earlier, consciously or sub consciously you would have used the dreaded word called ‘resolution’ or let’s make it 3 words ‘New year resolution’. And now is the time to view the report card for the hara-kiri that you committed. The report card that you would see is for a very unique exam by the way, you drafted the questions, you prepared for it or maybe did not and only you know the answers. Beautiful is the human mind!
It is the time to be pensive as another dreaded word post viewing of the report card, would cross your mind, known as ‘IF’. If only I would have put more efforts into the project and projected it well as thought, If only I would have exercised more as I had promised myself a year back … and the list is as much as you had made promises or resolutions, if not less.
Hope, the only word that Homo sapiens look forward to every new morning and after every failure. This is what keeps the human spirit alive especially on New Year’s Eve when the spirits as such are high. So, we drown the anxiety and pensiveness with kebabs and tandoor and dance away merrily as ‘hope’ is always there with us. We hope that next year we shall not commit same mistakes and improve ourselves maybe in terms of knowledge, skill, relationships and make some targets to achieve. We hope to live and survive and thrive. Being an insurance guy, this is real bad news!
My buddies from school and college could be still stuck on the phrase ‘romancing lovely looking people’ and wondering what it means though they exactly know what it means. Yet to give them a glimpse of our common thinking, it is that sight when you are outside the church post completion of mass and everybody is dressed up to make your heart skip a beat. So, now that the imagination machine is running at full speed, let me introduce a concept called ‘lo re’ or logical resolution, just fresh from my imaginative mind.
In the past year, we interacted with lots of people, some old ones, some new. We did different types of work or tasks, again something which we had been doing for donkey years or some hobbies that we picked few years or months back or a task which was totally new. There are many such things that happened in the past year. “Lo re” concept says that we need to take this (hindi translation literally means, take it) experience and analyze it basis our assumptions regarding the same. Ok, I am not down in high spirits and am making sense, so let me explain with an example. Let’s stick to People and Task only at this point for clarity of thoughts.
Suppose, you knew and interacted with a person, an office colleague, say Gajodhar who on 1st Jan 2014 as per your understanding was a typical Bihari, down to earth, simple and person with limited tastes. However, in the past one year, it is quite a possibility that due to some events this assumption would have undergone a change, Gajodhar became Gajju, was the rock star at annual meet and you found that he knows and loves imported cars more than you do. This experience you need to take it in and analyse as per the diagram. A very simple diagram which enables you to plot a person’s experience in one box of the 9 boxes (Low / Neutral / High) as per the ‘Importance’ and ‘Expectation’ you attached on 1st Jan 2014. And do the same for 01st Jan 2015.
Are both the boxes same? Has there been any change? This will help you in defining relationships as want them to see. Maybe you attached too much expectation with a person or maybe somebody’s importance in life surprised you over the past year. This will help you align yourself with the people you want to be associated with and make the relationship aspect of your New Year Resolution stronger, better and definitely logical. A similar exercise can be done for Task wherein the variables could be ‘Satisfaction’ and ‘Learning’. So, for a task say, vendor management exercise which you were involved in during the year, though the learning was high, satisfaction may have been low. It gives a clear idea that this is not a path you want to tread on although you have the necessary attitude and skill to execute it as and when required.
So, this is my concept “Lo Re” or logical resolution for you. Ab le bhi lo. However, I am still to unravel one particular concept which was rather intriguing for all my school friends during our school times. Why are guys in total formal gear post the church mass and the girls … well, whatever.
See, this is my resolution, to not allow myself to wander when doing important work. FOCUS. But still …:)